It's Still My Body

        Let me start this by saying that it is NEVER ok to criticize another human beings weight, shape, or physical challenges. We are all fighting a battle of some sort.  I do not know what it is about seeing a pregnant woman that gives people the sense of entitlement to say whatever comes to mind about her ever changing body.  I am not an overly sensitive person, and I am completely aware, and secure with, the reasons for the changes my body is going through. Still, I have become very aware that I repeatedly have to bite my tongue in response to peoples ignorant and insensitive remarks about my pregnant body. So, for those of you who feel the need to make a comment or share your unwarranted opinion, let me remind you that it is still my body , not just a baby vessel, and let me provide you with a list of things that I can guarentee you no pregnant woman wants to hear. For the record, these are all things that have actually been said to me. 

1. "Woah!"  This should never be your reaction when approaching or being approached by a pregnant woman.  Even the most confident of us are feeling a little insecure. We can already see your reaction in your face, we don't need to hear it from your mouth. 

2. "How much bigger can you possibly get?!" That is so incredibly rude and the truth is , probably a lot. If we are still out and about we haven't even reached the point where our baby is going to double in size. 

3. "Are you sure you're not having twins?!"  We are usually about 98% sure that we know the head count and would have probably, joyfully, already informed you if there was in fact more than one child in their.

4. -As they lean to glance at your backside- "Wow, its all widening, huh?" Yep, it sure is, and it hurts and its sore and its for one of the most amazing reasons in the world so you are more than welcome to kiss it.

5. Don't ask when we are having the baby only to shoot back with some asshole remark. Example: "When are you due?"  "2 more months."  "You mean 2 more days haha?!"  Nope, 2 months and we are aware of our size and, now, your ignorance. 

6. And finally, when talking to a mother-to-be, whose wish is to have a natural birth, do not tell her how terrible her "area" is going to be after the fact. ESPECIALLY if you have never experienced it first hand.  Do your research and keep your mouth shut. For some reason pregnancy makes conversation about your Vageen fair game. 

      For those of you who have a kind comment or words of encouragemen to share, thank you. 

      I am sure that every woman who has ever been pregnant could keep this list going on and on and on. So please, watch what you say, be kind, and remember that we are still human, words still hurt us, and most importantly , it is still our body.